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My older brother (39M) and I (32M) have by no means been extraordinarily shut as a result of we now have little or no in frequent, however we get alongside effectively sufficient after we see one another at household gatherings and holidays. We not often ever have disagreements, however we additionally hold our conversations very surface-level (normally simply speaking about popular culture or his youngsters). I got here out of the closet at a really younger age, and my household was at all times very supportive and accepting. I grew up in a Christian family, but by no means felt judged or condemned by my family. I attended Christian faculties and felt extremely uncomfortable there, however I had a protected house at residence to be myself. It wasn’t till September of this 12 months, once I bought engaged to my accomplice of 5 years, that my sexuality immediately turned a problem. I’m not a Christian or a member of any faith, for that matter. My brother, however, has change into more and more religious over the past twenty years, particularly after assembly his spouse in ~2013. They’re the kind of Christians who consider doing yoga invitations the satan into your physique, and Devil is influencing the election. So yeah, I simply keep away from the topic of faith round them. Once I introduced the engagement within the household group chat, I solely acquired congratulatory messages from my sister, my mother, and a half brother of mine. The brother from these screenshots, his spouse, and my dad stated nothing (although I later spoke to my dad). I discovered that basically odd. I later mentioned it with my sister, and he or she agreed it was bizarre, and thought possibly they have been simply busy (my brother has 4 youngsters and an engineering profession) however would say one thing ultimately. The engagement was introduced on 9/22 and I didn’t hear something from him till 10/11, when he despatched me the textual content proven right here. After I despatched my reply, I blocked his quantity. I do know this may occasionally appear excessive. However in my thoughts, I couldn’t think about persevering with a brotherly relationship with him understanding that he doesn’t help or respect my proper to marry. Why ought to he have the ability to compartmentalize his relationship with me like that? I suppose my sister talked to him about it, and he stated he felt that because the “chief of his household” he didn’t need to set a nasty instance for his kids. However my accomplice and I’ve been round his youngsters numerous occasions, and it was by no means a problem till now. His birthday simply handed and for the primary time in most likely 25 years, I didn’t want him a cheerful birthday. I really feel like I’ve to determine now if I’m really dedicated to reducing him out of my life for good. So I’ve to know: am I overreacting? submitted by /u/Illustrious-Score793 to r/AmIOverreacting |